MARY MAGDALENE: Healing Shame
Received by Mercedes Kirkel
Question: I would like to hear you share about the energy of shame, how to open ourselves to looking at shame, without punishing ourselves for it or the things we want in life.
Mary Magdalene: Can you share more specifically what the source of the shame is that you’re asking about?
Questioner: I’ve had a long journey to explore shame in myself, especially as a woman, because women have been so held back from saying what we see, hear, or feel. It keeps us from living our lives fully and feeling what we have to birth in our hearts.
Mary Magdalene: That is the purpose of shame. Shame was cultivated to remove people from their power. It’s a technique of control, through convincing people they are bad, wrong, sinful, evil, or whatever the variation is. A hallmark of the third dimension is thinking that there is such a thing as right or wrong, good or bad.
Power and control is also a hallmark of the third dimension. It is what most souls have come here to explore. Power and control are the arena of this exploration. Good and bad are the methods of playing in that arena, by attempting to create power for some and take power away from others. This is one of the power games your world tends to be consumed with.
Shame is a part of that. Shame is a particular segment of the much-larger thinking and programming that says that there is such a thing as right or wrong. If there were no such thing as right or wrong, you wouldn’t feel shame.
Questioner: It feels like it goes into a place of polarization, taking us out of feeling our heart and having compassion and acceptance for our situation and our challenges. I want the clarity to not get into “I’m right and they’re wrong,” in moving out of shame.
Mary Magdalene: The greater practice is to go beyond right and wrong all together. In that process, healing shame is so important.
There are different arenas that most people tend to have shame. The first one is body shame. Most people in your world, especially in the United States, have great shame around their body. They don’t like their body, it’s not acceptable, and especially it’s not lovable. Most people have very specific ideas of what they would have to have to be lovable in their body—and they don’t qualify. Their body doesn’t match whatever that criteria is. This is a huge arena that needs healing for people and it is spiritual. It is a spiritual imperative that this healing be done relative to body shame.
Most people have shame relative to their sexuality. They feel it’s evil, sinful. They feel that they shouldn’t be involved with it, especially if they want to be spiritual or somehow more evolved or elevated. But even people who aren’t specifically interested in spirituality or religion tend to carry the general cultural message that sex is bad. On the other hand, sex is attractive. Sex is something people want and that they have a lot of attention and energy for. But there’s a secret quality to it, because they believe it is really bad.
People have shame relative to their emotions. Men have shame if they feel fear or sadness. Many men receive the message that they’re not a real man, or a real boy if they’re still young, if they show fear or sadness. Women often have shame about anger. There’s great healing to be done in these areas.
These are the Feminine arenas that have been identified as wrong, bad, unacceptable—your body, sexuality, and emotions. The Feminine arena is also where your power comes from. The mind does not have power. Your power comes from your Feminine.
There are other kinds of shame, where people have a sense at their core that there’s something the matter with them: “I’m just not OK. Everyone else is OK, but I’m different. I’m defective. I’m deficient.” Then they have ideas and beliefs that seem to back that up. This is extremely debilitating.
The healing work of all of shame is essential and most important. But as I said earlier, the real healing is the healing of the very idea that it is possible to be wrong; that it’s possible to be bad. That is the greatest healing you can bring, because this is what really binds and enslaves people. It is the very idea that “badness” or “wrongness” exist. This is what people’s true liberation will be.
I am not suggesting that people therefore take any action within the realm of possibilities. All actions have consequences. Some actions support love and light and some actions do not. The discernment is: Does this action support love and light or does it interfere with love and light? Not because the being or the action is inherently bad. All beings are on the path of incarnating love and light. The discernment is simply whether a particular action is moving you forward on your path of light and love or holding you back. That is all.
So that is the healing that is called for.
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Thank you, for this broadening of understanding shame, it’s helpful in the present process of seeing my thoughts, reactions about my behavior, easily feeling guilt, shameful for not having paid attention to prevent an awkward situation. When I verify this with the person involved, there’s never a problem on their side, it’s all within me, that this “story” is made up.
That’s a valuable lesson to me, that how I feel is fully caused by my own
reaction, coming from a strict religious upbringing, using guilt as control.
The discernment of “is this really me?” and that programming of old, becomes clearer every day. At times I comfort myself in an embrace, being a kind nanny to myself, saying “You’re alright, you’re okay, don’t worry”.
For a woman, to speak her mind, herheart, is a healing. Many women circles exist here in the UK, due to the pagan interest and the Mists of Avalon movie, priestess-circles. Now also circles of yogini’s, goddesses, fairies, mad- hatter-women clubs are emerging. It wouldn’t surprise me if that’s the case or beginning to happen in more places in the world.