From Lady Mary

Part 2 of a Message Given through Mercedes Kirkel on January 6, 2013

[Note: Lady Mary is the same being often referred to as Mother Mary.]

Now I would like to hear your questions. What would you like to ask of me, that I can be of service and help you. Please ask me now.

Question: The question I would like to ask is about relationships. There are so many of us right now that are searching for that special one and have a desire to join in a sacred relationship. We’re feeling almost like a struggle with this. What was the purpose of that?

Lady Mary:For many of you, your light was required in making this transition you have been going through in your world. It was very important that the shift in your world be the primary arena that your light was being given to. So there was an aspect that was called in of putting relationships on hold if they were not already formed, if they were not already strong and full relationships. This has been a part of what has been going on. It has been mysterious to many of you, whose hearts long for that kind of connection—which is natural—and wondering why that is not coming in, when you feel so ready, so prepared, and so desirous of having that strong love with another being.

This is changing now. It is part of this change that you are beginning to go through. Again, it will not be immediate and overnight, where everyone will immediately be in a relationship that they have dreamed of. But the field is open now. The new energy has come in. It has been grounded. It has been set in place. The frequency is there now; it is stable. So this is going to free up people to move forward in their personal paths in ways that it was asked that this be on hold for a period of time prior to now.

We thank all of you who have given your light, your love, your service to this transformation of your world. The effect, let me assure you, is going beyond your world. It is not just this world that is being affected. The change that is happening is vast. Your part in it has been most important, each of you, and it has been required that your energy be given. But now that is being freed up. So you will find new openness, new ease in creating the love relationships that you desire.

For some of you, this will not be entirely on the same dimension as the one that you are primarily manifesting in. Some of your relationships will be in higher dimensions, where there are beings of higher dimensions, and you will find this very fulfilling and satisfying. It will not be, “Oh well, that’s nice but doesn’t really fill me the way that I am wanting.” For some of you it will be extremely satisfying and wonderful. For others of you, that will not be the case and your primary relationship will be on the same dimension in which you are primarily manifesting.

You also should know that part of the shift that you have gone through is that in the old form, the old consciousness, the old reality, partner relationships of an intimate kind were virtually the only kind of safe haven that you experienced for your heart, where you could open up to the depths of your being in a way that not only sustained you but fed you, kept you going, nurtured you. Now it is not going to be so. It is not going to be that that will be the only form through which you will be fed and sustained. More and more you will be forming families of light, communities of light, villages of light, networks of light, where you are feeding and supporting each other in many, many ways. This is going to create great freedom for you, great love, great support. It will allow you to expand your relationship possibilities.

You may still find yourself in wonderful partnership relationships with an intimate. These forms may also change. They may take new forms that in the past you did not think you would be involved in. But it will also be that you will be fed by many forms of relationships, many kinds. It will not be that you will be relying on one person, primarily, for your love, for your security, for your companionship, for your spiritual closeness, for so many things that in the past most people have looked to and received from their intimate relationships. Now it is going to be so much fuller. You will not feel the kind of desperation that so many of you have sadly experienced, feeling that you had to work so hard to survive—physically, emotionally, socially, however it was. This is also going to be changing.

You are going to be assured that you will be cared for, that you will be loved in this dimension in a new way. It is going to make life so much easier, so much happier, more joyful, so much more full because you are freed up to live your true life purpose, whatever that is, and are giving that and sharing that so fully and freely with others. Your world is going to be a different place. And the role of relationships in your world will change because of that.

But that does not cancel out, it does not negate that intimate relationships are one of the great joys of human beings. You will certainly continue to experience those and they will be supported in new, wonderful ways. And many will be coming in. That is part of this new time that is happening. We thank all those who have waited, which, we are so aware, has not always been easy. Thank you so much.

Question: Some of the people in my life are challenging to be with in a compassionate and loving way. I want to create a healthy boundary for myself with these beings. I want to release them with love and compassion, but I don’t always know how to do that gracefully. Can you offer any advice?

Lady Mary: Yes. I thank you for your question. This is something that many people struggle with and it is most valuable that you ask.

There is both inner work and outer work that you can do in relationship to people who are challenging in your life. The inner work is to ask yourself why you have called this person or this situation into your life. Even to get to that question is a step of responsibility that is valuable and not always easy for people to make. People oftentimes feel that they have no choice in the matter of what is manifesting in their life. But in reality, you have always had choice.

Some of the things in your life are things you have called in for particular reasons—to help you grow. There is a phrase that some people have used called “tough love.” When you have these kinds of difficult situations in your life, they are actually a form of tough love that you have given to yourself. They are helping you in some way.

Sometimes the people you have difficulties with are reflecting yourself in ways that are hard for you to see. But because you have manifested them, it is a sign that, through the law of attraction, you have called in that which is like yourself. There is some aspect of what is happening that is like yourself. Oftentimes, when you are struggling with it, it is because you do not realize the similarity. And so you do not see it as a gift, either. You see it as a burden or a hardship.

It is very valuable to look at the circumstances and the people in your life that you have difficulty with and say, “Why have I brought this into my life? Is this reflecting something in me that I need to look at? Is this circumstance or this action that the person is engaging similar to a circumstance I create or actions that I take?”

Or perhaps you call in a circumstance or a person because it supports you in a certain way. Actually it is always the case that it is supporting you in a certain way. If it were not supporting you, you would not be calling it in. So this is another question that you can ask yourself: “In what way is this situation supporting me? What am I getting out of being in this situation?” This may be difficult to see. It may be helpful to ask another person who you trust to help you with these questions, to see it from another perspective, because you may be hiding it from yourself. It may be something that you’re scared of facing about yourself, in some way or other.

When you get to the root of these questions, when you get to the place where you can answer these questions and it feels true for yourself—and you will know when you get there; you know within yourself when it has that ring of truth, when your body says, “Yes, ah-ha, this is what is really going on.” When you get to that place, it’s like a knot that unwinds. Suddenly you don’t need that outer circumstance anymore to reflect to you what’s going on. You’ve received the gift. You’ve received the lesson. And you can start to be in choice about how you want to respond to that circumstance, that lesson, whatever it was.

Once you start to make that response and you start to change yourself, you will see your outer circumstance change. You will no longer need that circumstance and you will no longer be calling it in. You will call something else in from the changes you make.

So that is the inner work that needs to be done. And it is important that you do that first. If you only do the outer work, you will simply create this same pattern, this same scenario in another circumstance or with another person in your life. This is because you have not changed what’s really at the root, what you’re doing that’s calling that situation in so that it manifests in your outer circumstance. So it is very valuable to do the inner work first.

Once you do that inner work, it will generally be easy to change the outer. You will be a different person and you will have a new freedom—energy will be freed up from the work that you have done. With this energy, and also with the clarity of new awareness and new consciousness that comes in, you will have much greater ease in creating a different circumstance in your outer world. This different circumstance may include all sorts of practical things. It may be that you spend less time with people who are difficult for you. You may choose to change certain circumstances. You might change your living circumstance, your work circumstance, whatever it is. But it will be much easier, because you’re a different person and you now have freed up energy and awareness to make this change. It will also be more joyful, because joy has been released for you in your life.

The final thing is that you will have compassion. When you have made these changes within yourself, then you will see that these other people who are difficult for you are simply struggling with their own growth, doing the best they know how with their life lessons and their growth. You will have compassion for them. That will be a very different circumstance than feeling that they are somehow controlling you. They will have lost their control over you. Then you will be free to love and have compassion.

Is this helpful to you?

Questioner: Yes. I feel that I do offer love and compassion. Sometimes it’s not received as that and it’s taken advantage of.

Lady Mary: You cannot engage the love and compassion until you do the inner work. Before that point it will never be felt as love and compassion. Love and compassion on the outer level alone is very limited in its scope, because you’re still struggling on the inner realm relative to these people. That is what you actually communicate outwardly, is your struggle. So people feel that.

When you have done the inner work, you become strong. You may not be able to change your circumstance. And certainly, you do not want to try to change the other people. That almost never works. And it is almost never beneficial to you or the other person to try to do that.

What you want is to love the other person. But you can only love them when you are free. As long as you are feeling controlled by them, you are not able to love them. It’s not possible. You need that love for yourself first. So put your attention on yourself. Give your love to yourself. Do your own work. Then it will unfold in a natural, true way that leaves you strong. You may not be able to affect the circumstance with the person, but you will be able to remain in love.

It is a beautiful thing that so many of you long to be compassionate and loving with people, even people that you have difficulty towards. But sometimes this is a gesture that actually creates a kind of a barrier, a wall, an artifice that is not most supportive for you or for others. True love, true compassion arises naturally on its own. It is natural to you to be compassionate and loving. If you are not compassionate and loving, you need to tend to yourself, not to the other person. It is not to try to superimpose, or even “inflict” compassion or love on another. It is to look at what you are suffering, what is your pain that is keeping you from being compassionate and loving, naturally. That is the work that is so important.

You see, you are always creating the outer world. You might think of it as being like your dreams. When you’re in the dream, it’s not so obvious that it’s a dream. Then you wake up and you think, “Oh, that was just a dream.” And it’s easy to think, “I just created that.” Sometimes you may think other things about your dreams. But there is an element with dreams where it’s much more obvious to you that you’re creating it, and that it can change very quickly. It doesn’t take long processes of great effort to change a dream. You can change a dream in an instant. And many of you do. Many of you know this power.

This realm is not any different. Just like a dream, you don’t have to go around fixing all the characters in your dream. Your work is with yourself, with your consciousness. As soon as that consciousness changes, the dream changes. So it is with this realm. It is just the same. This is going to become more and more apparent to you in this new time, and you will enjoy it most wonderfully. Your skills will come to you. You are young in these abilities of bringing this into this new period. So be patient with yourself. Be compassionate with yourself, first and foremost. It will come.

Question: I’ve noticed with these lighter energies that a lot of people are simplifying their lives, releasing a lot of their material possessions. There are also a lot of people that are feeling called to move geographically right now. If we are creating everything around us where we are, why do we feel such a calling at times to move to a different location? Is it about where we are on the Earth and helping her? Could you offer insight into that?

Mary: Yes. There could be different reasons. Because you are becoming more of an energy being, you are drawn to where the energies are most harmonized with your energy, or where you’re most harmonized with the energies of that place and the other beings of that place. So there’s a natural movement towards that energetic resonance. That is a big part of it.

For some people it may also have to do with service and your life purpose, your spiritual work. You may be called to a certain area that’s more in need of your service or more supportive of that. So both are true. But it’s fundamentally about energies. And that is why there is movement going on, because people are realigning energetically.

Are there other questions?

(Silence for a period of time)

I hold you all in my sphere of love, in a great sphere of love and light. I encourage you to refresh yourselves in this love and light regularly, so that you can more and more live in this space with others. You have a wonderful future ahead. I bless you. I thank you. I celebrate with you. My heart is with you.

With my blessings, I leave you now.

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